Where the Buffalo Roam...

Dear readers you are probably wondering about the previous random word of the day. But I wanted to define Utarded before using it in my post as it is the only way I can come to understand my family members. For those of you with a good memory, you may remeber a previous blog about the shotgun wedding of my neice, in the last year I have also been the best man for my brother who wed a week later in Washington D.C., and as he is a twin I guess the other twin has to go and get married too. I don't want any of you to think that I do not think that marriage is a wonderful institution I fully support it, and will admit I am jealous that I will never have the proverbial affair. But I also want to lay a foundation for those of you not familiar with Utah and its own quirks. The majority of people realize that Utah is home to the Mormon faith, but one of the tangents that separates them is marriage for time and all eternity. So marriage is sacred, not something to be entered into lightly. Not that the traditional till death do you part should be considered trivial either. But utah has such pressures for its young denizens to marry in their early twenties that it disgusts me. I understand if both sides have completed school, traveled a little, and in the sake of taste - made a few mistakes. But what I don't understand is people in the 21st century who do not take a step back and realize the consequences of thier actions and the implications. We each have one life to live - one cannot depend on another for ones happiness, nor can you provide that happiness for someone else. Peace comes from within. But marriage is not the time to find oneself, you have then entered a covenant and are part of a relationship. But two weak links do not make a stronger chain. Perhaps I am barking up the wrong tree, as I tend to write from my vantage point, but I didn't come to understand a great many aspects of my self until my late twenties, heaven forbid owning up to the immaturity of my late teens and early twenties.